cleanups, handling 'ls -l-', handling '--*'
Note this is in the same time back out of our v1.3
"Don't print an error message if the bad option is '?'"
because it directly violates POSIX.
Also, make an internal _getprogname() that is used only inside
libc. For libc, getprogname(3) is a weak symbol in case a
function of the same name is defined in userland.
in my tree for a long time. bde reviewed this once upon a time and
said it was OK, iirc. This also obviates the need to put ? in the
optstring argument to preclude the extra warning message which some
people think confuses users. When I made my getopt cleanups of a long
time ago, this was the compromise reached. I just neglected to commit
it until now.
