This significantly reduces lock contention when adding/removing knotes
on busy multi-kq system... Next step is to cache these references per
kq.. i.e. kq refs it once and keeps a local ref count so that the same
refs don't get accessed by many cpus...
only allocate a knote when we might use it...
Add a new flag, _FORCEONESHOT.. This allows a thread to force the
delivery of another event in a safe manner, say waking up an idle http
connection to force it to be reaped...
If we are _DISABLE'ing a knote, don't bother to call f_event on it, it's
disabled, so won't be delivered anyways..
Tested by: adrian
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