to sleep on commands to the NIC when updating multicast filters. More generally this permitted
driver's to use an sx as a softc lock. Unfortunately this change introduced a race whereby a
a multicast update would still be queued for deletion when ifconfig deleted the interface
thus calling down in to _purgemaddrs and synchronously deleting _all_ of the multicast addresses
on the interface.
Synchronously remove all external references to a multicast address before enqueueing for delete.
Reported by: lwhsu
Approved by: sbruno
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